A Point of View - The secret of a happy marriage
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Adam Gopnik reflects on what makes a happy marriage. Darwin, Gopnik writes, when first thinking about marriage, made a list of pros and cons. Cons included the expense and anxiety of children and the odd truth that a married man could never go up in a balloon.
On the plus side, he noted, marriage provided a constant companion and friend in old age and, memorably, that a wife would be better than a dog.
Gopnik's own formula for a happy marriage is lust, laughter and loyalty.
Via Samuel Beckett, Monty Python and The Big Lebowski, Gopnik concludes that loyalty is a much-underrated quality. Loyalty is not, he argues, a passive state that holds two people together when all else has failed.
Rather, he explains, loyalty is a wholly active state, as a new family dog has demonstrated. Dogs are there, he writes, "to remind us that loyalty is a jumpy, fizzy emotion - loyalty leaps up at the door and barks with joy at your return, and then immediately goes back to sleep at your side".
Producer: Adele Armstrong.
Published on Friday, 29th March 2013.
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